If you plan to file for divorce, you never want to take action before speaking with a Phoenix divorce attorney. There are many things that you can do to an estranged spouse to make a divorce more contentious than it has to be. To help you and your Phoenix divorce attorney better handle the settlement situation, here are some common mistakes to avoid before leaving your spouse.
1. Secretly Preparing Before Leaving
One of the surest ways to arouse resentment during a divorce is by preparing well in advance to leave, without notifying your spouse. It is understandable that the other person will feel blindsided by your actions. You have been harboring ill-will, but, in their eyes, pretending that things are not so bad. Then, suddenly, you leave and serve them with divorce papers from your Phoenix divorce attorney. There is little to hide advance preparations for a divorce. The tell-tale signs, such as opening a separate bank account, applying for a new apartment and getting a new phone number will surface during the divorce proceedings. Be prepared for anger.
2. Confessing Past Misdeeds
While it is admirable, in a sense, to admit that you have been unfaithful, doing so at this time can increase the ever-present animosity. If a divorce proves inevitable, then informing a spouse of infidelity, for example, may only cause their ire. In fact, it is possible that they will perceive of the notification as spiteful.
3. Telling Children Nasty Things
Children will undoubtedly want to know why mommy and daddy no longer love each other. The temptation to inform the children of all the faults of the other party should be avoided. It will prove impossible for the children to not inform of what you said. In fact, their actions alone may provide evidence of your confessions. No one wants to be the villain, especially in the eyes of their children.
Speak with a Phoenix Divorce Attorney When Planning to Leave
It is always a good course of action to consult a Phoenix divorce attorney, such as one at the Law Offices of Janice M. Palmer, P.C., at (480) 820-4771 or toll-free at (888) 352-7725, when a divorce seems probable.