Divorce can create many challenges for couples as they try to settle their past and start a new separate future. Divorce can seem complex for all couples, but parents often struggle with figuring out how to successfully co-parent with their ex. Co-parenting may seem impossible for parents who just recently separated, especially if either parent still has feelings of anger and resentment toward their ex.
Raising a child with your ex after getting divorced can be complicated to say the least. Trying to respectfully communicate with each other regarding schedules, play dates and basic parenting decisions can seem like trying to negotiate a treaty to end a war. Despite the challenges, divorced parents should know that it doesn’t have to be this way.
Parents need to remember that their divorce can also be very hard for their children to understand and accept. When discussing child custody and visitation arrangements with your ex, it is important to always keep your children’s best interests in mind.
Now that the holiday season is approaching, parents should take steps to make sure their children can still enjoy the holidays with their family. Even though the family dynamic has changed, it doesn’t mean the holidays are ruined. Both parents should make an effort to be flexible and discuss their holiday schedules well in advance to make sure everyone is able to celebrate with their loved ones this year.
After deciding when and how each parent will celebrate the holidays with the kids this year, it is important for parents to discuss the upcoming holidays with their children. It is okay to let the kids be upset or frustrated with the impact the divorce has on their lives. Show compassion and be understanding to your child’s concerns, and make sure they know you will always be there for them.
It is important for parents to know that celebrating the holidays after divorce can be an emotional experience. However, keep in mind that you will be creating new memories with your kids and other family members, and focus on enjoying this time with your kids instead of feeling guilty or sad about the past.
Getting through the holidays after a divorce can be hard, but remember to focus on creating new, happy memories and that the New Year is just around the corner.
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Source: Huffington Post, “Divorced Parents: How to Help Your Kids Get Through the Holidays,” Rosalind Sedacca, Nov. 11, 2013