It cannot be denied that divorce is a difficult time for the whole family. It does not really matter how harmonious the split may be, it remains a challenging time. One of the challenges faced by divorcing parents is the effect on their children. Children of all ages in all states, including Arizona, are influenced by divorce as they silently sit by, listening and watching everything.
There are ways in which parents can help their children through the process. It does not matter how old the child is, one of the first things to do is help them understand is that they are not at fault. A second matter to address is dealing with the emotions they are experiencing. Children should be reassured that there is no specific way to feel. They should be encouraged to realize that it is natural for their feelings to change and that to feel happy about the changes in the family situation, at times, is okay.
Children should also be encouraged to talk to people outside the family about the divorce. This does not necessarily have to be a qualified therapist. It can be a friend of the family, a clergyman or trusted relative. Although it may seem obvious, it remains necessary for children to be reassured that both parents love them and that the divorce changes the relationship between their parents. It has nothing to do with the parents’ relationship with their children.
Parents can also make things easier for their children by helping them realize that each parent has his or her individual way of showing love and that their relationship with each parent should be kept separate from the other. Parents should also not pry. Children can benefit from understanding that they have no responsibility to try to fix things. The divorce is a private affair between their parents.
Just as parents getting a divorce in Arizona needs to obtain a full understanding of their rights during the process, their children may require help to realize that the divorce does not change who they are. They need to go on to believe that life goes on and that marriage can still be good. Divorce does not have to mean the end of everything familiar — just a change which can mean a better life for all.
Contact Our Mesa Divorce Attorney
Divorce affects everyone, especially the children. However, our Mesa divorce attorney can help. Call the Law Offices of Janice M. Palmer, P.C. at (480) 820-4771 or toll-free at (888) 352-7725 for a consultation.
Source: huffingtonpost.com, “10 Things All Divorcing Parents Should Say To Their Kids”, Sophie Rosen, April 2, 2014