It would appear as if many couples who consider splitting up have realized that a messy divorce can be a costly affair. Couples in Arizona seem to have come to the realization that fighting is not the way to go and that mediation can make a divorce a lot cheaper and easier. However, deciding on the less messy route does not make it any easier when it comes to telling the children you are getting a divorce.
The fact is that if you approach the matter in the wrong way, your children may suffer damage that can never be undone. The most important thing is that your children must be told with love and kindness. The question is — how to go about it?
First, never mind the fact that your marriage is coming to an end, you both remain the parents of your children. This is why it is very important that both of you break the news to them together. It is important to be well prepared for what will definitely be a difficult conversation.
Next, do not wait too long before you tell your children, but at the same time have your plans in place. Children should not be uncertain of what will happen. Both parents should also be available to provide support when the kids need it.
It is important to make sure that your children know they are still loved by both parents, even if you do not love one another anymore. Also, make sure that your children know that they are not the cause of your divorce. They must continuously be told that it is not their fault.
Just as you both as parents getting a divorce in Arizona need to adapt to certain changes, your children may require help to realize that the divorce does not change who they are. They need to go on believing that life goes on and that your love for them goes on forever. Divorce does not have to mean the end of everything familiar — just a change which can mean a better life for all.
Source: The Huffington Post, “How Do You Tell Your Children That You Are Getting a Divorce?“, Jim Halfens, June 26, 2015